enbitious

Our topic today is “Meron ba kayong friend na inggitera o inggitero? Hay naku mga kapatid sa totoo lang maraming mga inggitera dito sa mundo natin, sa place ko pa nga lang marami nyan. Yung iba ayaw na nadadaig, gusto siya ang laging tama, siya ang laging bida. Eh ang tanong pwede ba yun? Sa palagay ko kasi lahat ng tao may kakabit na inggit talaga sa katawan, di maiiwasan ito, depende nalang kung san ka dadalhin ng inggit. Can’t they just stop and quit? Everything is just so REDUNDANT.

Sa lahat siguro ng masasamang ugali, ito ang pinaka dahilan kung bakit ang tao ay nakakagawa ng hindi maganda ang isang tao sa kapwa…dahil kapag laging umiiral sa sarili mo ang inggit, wala kang gagawin kung ‘di manira, hilain pababa ang iyong kapwa, mag-kwento ng masasama laban sa kapwa, makipag-isnaban, mag-salita ng non-sense o makakasakit sa kapwa at marami pang ibang mapapangit na gawa.

Sabi sa internet ang inggit daw o Envy sa ingles ay:
“Envy may be defined as an emotion that “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement, or possession and either desires it or wishes that the other lacked it.” And dapat din natin tandaan na ang envy ay kakambal ng insecurity. What I’ve noticed about people who are envious is that their insecurity is often not about their feeling bad about themselves, but about their having an ego that makes them need to be Number 1. Diba?

Ibig sabihin madaming dahilan kung bakit naiingit ang isang tao sa kapwa nila. Bagong damit, bagong alahas, pera, kaibigan, or mga bagay na hindi nya magawa at nagagawa mo, pwede nyang kainggitan yun. SO ano ba ang dapat gawin kapag may kakilala kang laging naiingit sayo?

Siguro dapat mo silang layuan muna or iwasan hanggat di nila narerealize na mali ang ginagawa nila. Tandaan “People that envy you are not your friends.” Maging alerto ka sa mga ganitong tao, obserbahan mo sila, yung pananalita nila, yung kilos or kahit yung mga facial expressions lang. Pwede din naman siguro silang kausapin about that, alamin mo yung nararamdaman nila, kung hindi sila makinig sayo break up with them. Ganun ka simple diba? Siguro naman hindi lang sya ang kaibigan mo? Maybe you have the same circle of friends, magtanong ka sa iba, kausapin mo sila, malay mo pareho na pala kayo ng napapansin ng iba nyong kaibigan eh dapat aksyunan nyo na bago pa to lumala. AGAIN TANDAAN : Envious people talk with others about you. And i dont think its good stuff. So be very very careful with them. Alamin mo ang ugat ng problema nya, baka kasi may nagawa kang masama sa kanya ng di mo alam and ginagawa nya lang yun as form of revenge, or baka naman bad mood lang sya or much worst trip lang nya. Ano sya adik? HAHA! Lakas ng trip.

Ang importante wag mong pansinin ang mga sinasabi nya sayo. Deadma. Keberloo. Kung gusto mo tulungan mo sya, siguro naman ma-appreciate nya yun. Make friends with people who have the same things as you or more, this way you don’t have envious people trying to pull you down.

People who struggle with feeling envy now and then think it is something everyone has. It isn’t. There are people who don’t have a “green with envy” cell in their being. Maybe the biggest factor in not feeling envious of others is keeping in mind that life is not a competition. Hindi na sya Highschool JS Prom, kung saan isa lang ang Prom Queen or Prom King. It shouldn’t be regarding who gets the most admiration and attention from people. It REALLY shouldn’t be about who has the flattest stomach or best hair. That is for children and adolescents. So be mature. In life, there really is no “score card”. There is only journey, and no matter how many people we have in our lives, each of us must make our journey alone. Deciding to focus on the more important things in life is a great way to stop paying attention to who has a better job, better education, better car, or better abs.

The person who asks how to stop feeling envious and insecure is a decent person who doesn’t like how bad envy makes him/her feel. Isipin natin kung gaano ka “destructive” ang inggit. Reminding oneself of what is truly important in life can go a long way in battling feelings of envy. Truly understanding the root of those feelings, though, may be the most helpful way to stop them from arising.

Yun na~ Zip it~

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